Dear Big Brother Beer,

I have been dating this guy for a couple of years now. How can I get him to be more “adventurous” in bed? I mean, I would like to try something new every now and again but just not sure on how to bring up the subject without hurting his man ego. Things are great except this nagging thing on my part, I am willing to try anything. So how can I get him to do this for the both of us?

Signed,
~~ Bored but Wanting More

Dear BbWM,

I’m assuming that your love life consists of fairly vanilla, missionary position, minimal foreplay, good old fashioned American sex. If that’s the case, then I would be willing to bet that your guy is just as bored as you are, and probably just as worried about hurting your feelings as you are his.

Most people learn just enough about sex to make procreation possible. Which is a shame, really, seeing as how many sick, depraved, totally non-baby making  sex acts are not only possible, but  a whole lotta  fun. Some people go through their whole lives without even knowing what a reverse cowgirl is, let alone ever trying it.  My guess is that your man is going to be a lot more open to your suggestions than you think. And as long as you avoid criticizing the the girth or length of his manhood, I wouldn’t worry worry about bruising his fragile Male Ego.

Then again, BbWM, my assumption that you and Mr. BbWM don’t even wrinkle the sheets could be way off. If you’re already to the point that riding crops and candle wax are boring, then that’s another issue altogether. But either way, an honest conversation about what you both want will go a long way towards giving both of you more sexual satisfaction.

Oh, and just so you can’t say I didn’t warn you, once you’ve started telling your boyfriend what YOU want in bed, BbWM, no fair getting all prudish if some of the things HE suggests either disgust or frighten you. Or both. In other words, don’t ask scary questions if you aren’t prepared to hear some scary responses. You never know, BbWM. You might have been dating a sexual deviant all these years without even knowing it. If so, congratulations. The sexual “adventures” you crave so deeply will be yours.

-Big Brother Beer

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