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Many times, and I mean many times I have heard women complain that their men are no longer romantic, or they don’t do the things they used to, or that you feel the love is lost in your marriage. I find this a little funny, and a little hypocritical. Well I figured that I would take charge and help you ladies understand a little something, something.

The first and foremost, why does your man have to be the only romantic one romancing? Now before I hear a thousand women saying they do this and they do that, think about this. If you truly do it that often, there should be no complaints about romance, unless you got that one guy who finds it romantic to serve him dinner with an extra beer. There are men out there like this, but for the most part that’s not your average man. Now I have been in many households with married and unmarried couples. When this talk comes up the first person to chirp in is the female saying “I’m the one that always…” and after she’s done talking on her high horse the guy starts shaking his head in protest.

Look ladies I understand how important it is for you to look good among your peers and it’s hard for you to admit when you’re wrong. That’s fine, but honestly if you want the same type of romance and love you first had, it’s you that needs to start changing first. Instead of waiting for your man to come “ravage” you, you do it to him. When women have been in long term relationships, for some reason, they turn into sex camels, and before you even start chirping that you don’t…. go ask your man for an honest answer…. that’s right I’m waiting. So after awhile your man has gotten it in his head that sex is a no go most of the time they ask. So are you really going to expect him to come ravage you when all he thinks he is going to get is a no?

That leads me to my next point, sex. Men get easily confused when their getting sex all the time in the beginning of the relationship, and then it dwindles away. Sorry to say ladies when a man loses sex, so does his drive on being romantic. Look at your friends who are just starting out in a relationship and are having sex all the time. Look how often her man whispers sweet nothings in her ear, does romantic things, etc. I’m not a rocket scientist but I would say that sex is a huge indicator on how romantic your man is. Yes we men are very sexual creatures, and you women are emotional creatures, we get that, but every once in a while be that porn slut your man has to jack it to cause he’s not getting any. When you do that watch how fast he goes from Mr. Television watcher to, Mr. here is some flowers and chocolate.

Surprise your man once in awhile. When he comes home (even with children in the household!!!) follow him to the bedroom and just give him oral. Don’t ask, just do. That is one of the most extremely hot things a woman can do. You do not know how many fantasies your fulfilling just by doing that. If you are the sex camel type, let him do it anyway. If allowed most men will do a wham bam thank you ma’am, so honestly what is anywhere from 5 – 20 minutes out of your day to please your man. Or if you’re on your period and you don’t want to have sex, you can still please your man by oral or even hand. You don’t have to get extremely imaginative… trust me. The point that I’m trying to get to is relieving your man more often than he is used to will honestly make a huge difference. You’ll bring him back to the time when you two were first going at it like rabbits, and by doing that you’ll remind him what he has to do to keep on getting it. Sex for a man is one hell of a motivator.

Now here is something that will be easy to do, and wont take a lot of effort. If you pack your man’s lunch, leave a little note in there. Something simple like “Baby I made this for you, hope this makes your day great, I love you”. Something that simple will keep your man thinking about you all day long. If you’re lucky his guy friends will see that and make fun of him; but down deep inside he is blushing. He will act totally alpha male when it comes to the guys being around, but when he gets home he’ll thank you for it. Or another way is to send him a text, email or a voicemail (I suggest if he’s a very busy person to try and call him at the times you know he isn’t as busy, cause what you may be doing to show your love you might just make him mad) just saying how lucky you are to have him, or how much you love him, etc.

Ladies another way to find out things that would get him going is as simple as this, ask him. Do you really think your going to get advice about men, from a woman’s magazine? 101 ways to please your man… oh come on I can count the number of things you can do for a man on both hands, with two fingers not being used. Yes ladies at times we are complicated, but for the most part we are as simple as simple can be. Just ask us what we want, we’ll tell you, that easy. This one girl in particular I dated, she would ask me all the time what I wanted from her, so I’d tell her, and she did everything else but what I said. Ask and listen, you ask the same from us, so give it right back. If we say it annoys when you do this, don’t do it. Also you ladies say you don’t nag, well you do. There is a lot of women who are not sure what nagging is, so I’ll fill you in. Nagging is extreme bitching, complaining, what I like to call chirping, squawking, constant questioning, and anything that has to do with “are you listening to me”, cause there is a good chance after hearing the first few seconds of nagging, no we are not listening to you.

Now last but not least, and I hear more men complain about this than anything else, their buddy time. For most men, the sexiest thing a woman can do outside of the bedroom and house is for their woman to let them hang out with their guy friends without problems. I have so many friends in relationships that do nothing but complain that they get smothered and get no free time to hang out. Ladies trust me you want to do this for your man. Not only will he have some fun (which everyone is entitled to), but when he gets home he will be so grateful he’ll be all over you and tell all of his buddies how his wife/girlfriend doesn’t treat him like a teenager. While on that point ladies, you’re their wife/girlfriend, not your man’s mother. We have one and it’s a lot to deal with them, so we don’t need another one.

Now there are times when your man wants you to come hang with their friends. You might hate all of his friends guts, but let me tell you, participating in conversations, having fun, and letting your man cut loose, well lets just say that night when you get home you’ll be VERY glad you did that for him. Honestly you like the small things, so does your man.

So ladies it may seem I’ve been bashing you, I’m not. I’m honestly helping you out here. I am also going to be writing an article for the men too. I just saw more work to be done on this side of the spectrum. I’m also telling you these things to help your relationship. I think it’s a shame these days relationship ends because a lack of understanding. I’m not going to say women are clueless, I just think they don’t know that these things are a huge factor. Now I understand there are always exceptions to the rules. I understand there are abusive husbands, or whatever the case. I know that there are bad women out there giving the good ones a bad name. I know this and have already taken into consideration. This article is for the average relationship, even if it’s not doesn’t mean you cant get a lesson or two from it.

So ladies I will end it with this. In a relationship it is always 50/50 no matter how you look at it. So the romance should be split 50/50. If you feel the love, romance, etc. is dying out, why should you wait for your husband to relight it, there is a good chance he has lost hope for whatever reason I may have talked about earlier. Don’t trust time to fix this problem, take the initiative, grab the bull by the horns, and even if it takes a couple of tries to succeed, that just means you got the end result you wanted.

Author’s note: I will be doing an “Ask the Man” section. If you have any questions you would liked answered please send an email to jontucker2582@gmail.com.