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The Barber Shop…My first time back in years, pub-2427795083793513, DIRECT, f08c47fec0942fa0

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So I went to a Barber shop over the weekend. It has been a long time since I have been in one. I have to admit that over the years periodically I have been to a few hair salons and such but not a “Man’s” barbershop. Here’s the story.


I remember very vividly as a young boy my Grandpa (Buzz) taking my brother and me to the Barber shop to get our hair cut. It was at Buster’s barber shop on Second Street. We would go in, Pops, David, and me, grabs some chairs that lined the long front glass windows facing the busy street and wait patiently for our turn. I was always the curious one. So while waiting my turn I would look at the hunting magazines or newspapers of the day. Buster’s also carried among many things a line of Zippo lighters hanging on the wall and I would look them over trying to figure out how they got those fancy feathered fishing hooks inside of those lighters. There was also a drink machine. The old school kind where you raised the lid and slide the cold coca cola bottle over to a slot to retrieve it. Seems like it was a dime for a small bottle… When the barber chair was empty and my name was called my Grandpa would help me climb up into it and sit on the booster seat. I was pretty small back then and still in grade school so I needed the extra lift in order for the Barber to cut my hair. The Barber would then drape the cape around me, tie it down and get to work. Back then I didn’t have a say so on what style I could get so it was the standard cut for the time. I think it was called a burr haircut…

The barber would start out with his scissors and clip away. He, and my Grandpa along with the other patrons would carry on with stories and small talk as he went about his art of turning this shaggy headed little kid into a proper looking boy of the day. I can remember even protesting back then at an early age that I didn’t want it that short!… And I can to this day feel those trimmers going over my ears. I knew when he got to that point it was almost over. Trim around my big ears, then the back of my neck, a few whisks of his hand brush around my head and shoulders and then off came the cape. I would slide down off the booster seat, plant my feet on the big metal foot rest. Reach out for Buzz’s hand and jump off. “NEXT”! The Barber would say and the next victim would jump up in the chair. I seem to remember that I never wanted to be first so after my turn at the chair, we were out of there…

Fast forward a few years. Junior High. By then feathered haircuts where in style for young guys like me so we started going to Hair salons. Arnold’s barber shop in particular. A barber shop yes, but in the true sense of the word, it was more of a hair salon. I wasn’t getting my hair cut I was getting it styled. He had a woman in his shop that also cut hair. Nothing wrong with that but it was different than a “Man’s” barber shop. I suppose it’s similar to a Lady’s salon. Where strictly women go to have their hair done. It’s “their” time away from the opposite sex.

High School came and went. The 80’s were here and it was the hair generation. Not the hippie generation of the 70’s but the big hair of the 80’s generation. Rock music, Rock concerts and Aqua Net… And lots of it.

So except for the occasionally trim, barbershops and salons became foreign to me. I grew my hair out and really never looked back…

Sometime in the late 90’s the bald look came in for men. Well, I just couldn’t bring myself to follow that trend so while most guys were gladly trading in their long locks for a Mr. Clean look, I didn’t. I stood my ground. I also didn’t wear flannel. Once again, bucking the entire system as an outsider. The bald head looked great on my friends…but it wasn’t for me.

The Millennium rolled around and the ball dropped but not on me. Still no change for me. Hair today, hair tomorrow.

I have often thought about cutting it on several occasions. Once when my Grandmother died back in 1995 but she said to me before she died she wouldn’t recognize me if I did. I was honored at both of our daughters’ weddings to be able to give them away and I seriously thought about cutting it both times. I had even thought about cutting it for the Father Daughter dance in 2001. But I didn’t.

I guess that deep down inside me it has something to do with giving up or growing up. I hate to give it. Remember what Commander Taggert said in “Galaxy Quest”? “NEVER GIVE UP, NEVER SURRENDER!” In reality, it’s just hair. But it’s mine. It’s me. It’s about me…

I have managed to escape the job market with it because I do wear it up in a hat at work and have pretty much since I have had this job.

Okay, oaky. You’re wondering about this past weekend. So here we go.

Saturday I parked my truck and stepped into the Barber shop. It looked familiar like the ones of old I have been to as a kid. The ground didn’t feel “funny” like it did to the mariner on “Water World”, it felt comfortable. I looked around and sized up the place. Black and white checkered floor. Muscle car garage theme on the walls. Ok, two barbers’ chairs. One chair was empty and only one barber on duty. His chair had a guy in it and the Barber was busy clipping away. “Hi”, I said. “You got time for one more?” To which he politely replied “yea, just grab a chair”. So I grabbed the first chair and sat down by the door.

As I looked around I did take notice that there wasn’t a drink machine in the corner. Nor were there Zippo lighters for sale on the wall either. Neither were there stacks of old magazines or newspapers. So what was there you ask? So much more than that.

It’s hard to explain but will I try. Something that as a young boy I somehow maybe not had recognized but was made fully aware of it now as an adult. The importunacy of a barber shop. Or for the ladies I suppose a hair salon. A soon as I sat down a couple more guys came in after me and grabbed a seat to wait their turn in the chair. The gentleman getting his hair cut in the chair continued talking but not just to the Barber but also now to me… And to the other guys in there. This went on for several minutes…

And then it happened. Just like when the Grinch’s heart melted and he saw the true meaning of Christmas for the first time, the light bulb went off in my head.

The Barber shop is an institution. A tradition. A time honored place were men can meet and talk about the events of the day. It’s a neutral place. No enemies,’ just friends that you may not even know their names. Shortly after I sat down as the one guy in the chair was talking, I noticed before long we all were talking like we had known each other for years. He had worked at Delkers. My Grandparents had also worked at Delkers. Delkers had closed around 1973. So look at all those years that have passed and here we were on a Saturday morning 41 years later talking about the freight elevators in that old building that had long since been torn down. So much in common. So much more than a haircut but it’s the thing that brought us together. The Barber knew my old “stylist” Arnold. He also knew Buster’s barber shop. He spoke kindly of the old timers that used to cut hair too.

We all sat there as the barber was finishing up with is customer. He had out the trimmers going ove the back of the gentleman’s neck and over his ears. Next up was the whisk brush. He gently whisked away the clippings… Then off came the cape. The guy stood up. Checked himself out in the mirror and told the Barber thank you and handed over his money for a job well done. The Barber then spun the chair around toward my general direction and said


I stood up and just

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What’s your favorite Christmas memory? Here are my few, pub-2427795083793513, DIRECT, f08c47fec0942fa0

and far in between ones..


Dressing us as twins was soooo wrong….

I have very few Christmas memories and I really don’t know why. There are photographs that prove we really had them and there were always a lot of toys but the memories are buried somewhere in my brain…I still have a few of the toys we got as little kids. The stuffed turtle I still have and the little metal guitar is another one that I have…

But the fond Christmas memories? Where are they at? I remember the cardboard fireplace and the colored wheel that was set up every year. I remember “mom” laying in bed at night and not going to sleep. I also remember hearing the car trunk slam on her car.

Here are a few of mine that I can recall…

 One Christmas I do remember clearly was our Uncle Abe and his wife Tina where staying with us. Abe had a thing for guard dogs and he had 2 Doberman pinscher’s always with him. Well, Uncle Abe’s bed was in the front guest room where the Christmas tree was. Christmas morning, we couldn’t go in there to see what we got because Abe was still in bed and the dogs would raise up and start growing at us..So Christmas was put on hold until he decided it was time to get up. Once he got up and the all clear was given to us to inspect our toys from Santa we found that during the night the Doberman pinschers had got down and chewed up some of the toys… One of them being my incredible hulk action figure and the kick stand that came with the football…Those damn dogs…. No apologies or nothing either from the xmas6Uncle..Uncle Abe was one tough Son of Bitch though. He grew up in a different era. His philosophy was this, “If you car has a half of tank of gas, fill it back up”…A few years later his precious attack dogs turned on him and his wife. They were ok but the dogs had to go. Years later when Uncle Abe was actually dying I was there…He told the paramedics to “Let me go goddammit!!”well, he got his wish…I miss the old guy…Hell, he may have only been 52 when he died but lived a lifetime in that short time..


David rocking the hand made cowboy outfit, I still have those and that guitar

When my brother David and I were real little, we had to go to Alabama for a trip to visit some relatives. You know, looking back it may have been Missouri but for some reason Alabama is stuck in my mind. I can see us playing on the sidewalk out in front of the house we were staying …Anyway, it was Christmas time. We worried and worried that Santa wouldn’t be able to find us since we weren’t home for Christmas. We didn’t have to worry. He found us. My brother David and I got a play doh fire truck each. That was all Santa brought.. I would have fared better if it had been a secret decoder ring,Lol. No explanations where given. And nothing was made up for it…A firetruck a piece…

 One time for Christmas we received two chopper chain driven big wheel type riding toys. These things were super cool. Big green choppers we could ride. But they were defective. The pedals weren’t welded to the sprocket so neither one of them worked. Santa had let us down… So our Grandpa Buzz took them to where ever you take Santa’s toys back for repairs…And we waited and we waited. We asked where were the cool choppers… No reply…And then they returned…They were under the tree the next Christmas!! Re-gifts! By then we had outgrown them. Can you believe that? They were repaired and kept somewhere until the following Christmas…


David always went first…

 About the last Christmas I remember while I was still at home was 1982. I received a Spark-o-matic 8 track tape player for my car! What a great gift! Loved it even though in 1982 8 track tapes were already being phased out to cassettes!

Anyway, there are a few of mine. What about yours?

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Posted by Chuck Gee - December 19, 2013 at 2:19 PM

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